18 Nov 2013

21. Jellyfish (week 2 post 2nd Op)

Over the weekend, my left breast starts self-inflating at an alarming rate. By the end of the day it is bigger than the right hand side that has been fully expanded. I feel panicky - it looks like a weird yellow and purple jellyfish. I leave a message for Giles. 
Later I receive a reply: it's a seroma or fluid build up which may need draining on Monday. But no emergency... I'm not convinced as my breast continues to expand like something from a Woody Allen movie. My outfit for the fancy dress party that evening is suddenly a tight fit and I feel pretty uncomfortable.
I have weird dreams that night involving inflating and exploding breasts.
Sunday morning and the Jellyfish seems to have stopped growing for now. It's my birthday, I’m 44 and I feel glum, looking in the mirror at my image. It feels a long time ago when I had two normal-looking breasts, albeit one with a pea-sized lump invisible to the eye. In fact it is less than four months - it's been a rapid journey, physically and emotionally. My moods have waxed and waned at different stages along the path. I feel constrained and frustrated by my current physical limitations and the thought of a further operation to come as well to complete the reconstruction. I know I'm being impatient and should be grateful this is all I have to deal with - I am. Just not all the time. Just need to allow myself a very occasional moment feeling sorry for myself. I try not to let the negative emotion last though - positivity has been vital to my recovery.
I have an interesting discussion that evening with my son about resilience and the importance of building strong foundations to help you through difficult times. I want him to see me as a strong role model in this respect, but also tell him how vital the love and support of family and friends has been to me, often coming from unexpected quarters.
On Monday, Giles checks the fluid build-up and decides it’s best to leave it alone for now to avoid introducing an infection risk. He reassures me it is unlikely to expand further - I'm relieved that my bad dreams won't come to fruition.

We briefly discuss timing for the final third procedure - I prefer to wait until the New Year so I can enjoy Christmas, but this means half term holiday plans are unlikely to materialise. 

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